I need to ask Jane but I’ll wait to see what kind of mood she is in today.
I’m never sure if Jane is going to compliment me or berate me.
I really want a day off but I depending on Jane’s mood she’ll either say have a nice day or try to make me feel bad about it.
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The emotional rollercoaster of my boss was exhausting.
I knew that this was her issue but I couldn’t help but take her moods personally. I felt like I was amazing and the best employee ever but then the next hour I was worried I was going to lose my job. Does this sound familiar to you? Here are some things I did to deal with my boss’s constant mood swings.
- I made every effort I could to make sure I took all of the nice things she said personally. I journal each night and I would always be sure to include the nice things she said about me. She could be really nice and appreciative.
- This one may not be respectful, but I pictured her like a toddler. I compared her yelling and tantrums as I would a 3-year-old. I imagined her slamming her hands on the ground and kicking her feet. I used to think she was so powerful but imagining her yelling as a little kid took that power away. She was no longer a tyrant, she was just immature.
- I started to look for the hidden meaning when she was upset. Here’s what I realized. She lashed out when she was scared. If our department was being questioned then she would get nervous she’d get in trouble for making a mistake. She had a lot of pressure on her. That is no excuse, but I was able to show more empathy while she was yelling.